50. Invisible No More: Feeling Seen As A Mom

Let me set the scene: you’re a mom at an automatic sink, waving your hands like you’re trying to summon water with some kind of secret spell, and… nothing happens.

The water doesn’t come out, and you start feeling like, “Well, I guess I’m invisible today.”

When You Feel Invisible As a Mom

Here’s the thing: that sink moment? It’s more than just an annoying glitch in modern technology. It’s a metaphor for those times when we feel invisible in our own lives—like we’re putting in all this effort, waving our hands, doing everything we’re supposed to do, but somehow, we’re still not being seen.

Now, I know I’m not the only one who’s felt this way, especially as women, as moms, as those who are often expected to be everything for everyone. We’re out here holding it all together, but sometimes it feels like the world doesn’t even notice.

And let’s get one thing straight right away: you are not the problem. The sink isn’t the problem. The problem is that all too often, we’re conditioned to think that we’re supposed to just keep going, keep giving, keep doing, without stopping to recognize our own needs, our own visibility.

The Real Problem (And How To Feel Seen As A Mom)

So, what’s the real problem when that sink doesn’t see you? It’s not that you’re invisible—it’s that the expectations we’re under are often impossible to meet without losing sight of ourselves. The problem is the pressure to keep going, to keep showing up for everyone else, even when we’re running on fumes.

But guess what? You don’t have to stay invisible. You have the power to step back into the light, and I’m going to share three steps to help you do just that.

Three Steps to Feeling Seen in Motherhood

1. Spontaneous Action: First, shake things up! Do something spontaneous, just for you. It doesn’t have to be big—just something that reminds you that you’re more than just the roles you play. Whether it’s taking a quick drive with your favorite playlist, buying yourself that little treat, or having a mini dance party in the kitchen, spontaneity helps you feel alive and present.

2. Listen to the Whispers: You know those quiet little thoughts that pop up every now and then? The ones that say, “I wish I could…”? Start paying attention to them. Those whispers are telling you something important about what you need to feel seen and heard. Don’t ignore them—they’re the key to reconnecting with yourself.

3. Command Your Time: Finally, take charge of your time. Even if it’s just five minutes, carve out a moment to breathe, reflect, and get your head on straight. One powerful way to do this is by joining a community like The Motherload Membership. This space is designed specifically for moms like you—those who are ready to reconnect with themselves, find balance, and reclaim their sense of identity. With resources, support, and art therapy practices at your fingertips, you’ll have the tools to make time for yourself in a way that feels empowering and sustainable. Check it out here.

Art Journal Therapy Exercise: Feeling Seen

And speaking of reclaiming your space, I’ve got a quick art therapy exercise that ties back to that pesky sink moment. Grab a piece of paper or your art journal, and let’s get creative.

Here’s what you’ll do:

1. Visualize the Sink Moment: Close your eyes and imagine yourself standing at that sink, waving your hands and waiting for the water that never comes. How does that feel? Hold onto those emotions as we move to the next step.

2. Draw the Scene: On your paper or in your journal, draw the sink and your hands waving in front of it. It doesn’t have to be perfect—just something that captures the moment.

3. Express the Emotions: Now, add in the emotions. Use colors, shapes, or lines to represent how you felt in that moment. Let it all out on the page.

4. Reclaim Your Presence: Finally, add something to the page that represents you reclaiming your visibility. Maybe it’s a bold color, a powerful symbol, or words like “I am here” or “I matter.” This is your declaration that you’re stepping back into the light.

I hope this episode helps you start feeing more seen and less invisible as a mom.

And if you’re feeling like it’s time for some deeper work, check out my services. I’m here to help you reconnect with yourself, get creative, and find the balance you deserve.

Because you’re not just a background character - you’re the leading lady in your own life.

Thanks for tuning in, and I’m so glad to be back with you. Until next time, keep waving those hands, keep claiming your space, and keep being you.

Who Am I, and What’s This Chill Like a Mother Podcast About?

I’m Kayla Huszar, a millennial counsellor and coach with a passion for helping moms and women find their way back to themselves through expressive art therapy and body-centered practices.

This podcast is a space where we get real about the challenges of modern life, the ways we can reconnect with our true selves, and how we can all start living with more intention, empathy, and creativity.

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