How do I know if my anxiety is too much? Recognizing and overcoming anxiety in pregnancy

Sometimes moms-to-be feel anxious without even realizing it, which can be tricky.

Anxiety is pretty common in pregnancy,

but there's a difference between regular worry and anxiety-anxiety, which can be especially tough on partners, and both the mom and the baby.

Becoming a parent is a total rollercoaster.

I totally get it. I went through perinatal anxiety/OCD that kicked off during pregnancy and stuck around for a good two-plus years postpartum (undetected and undiagnosed).

And let me tell you, feeling more on edge than usual during pregnancy? It's pretty common, though definitely not what you'd call normal. Studies indicate that a significant number of women experience anxiety during pregnancy. Anxiety, if left untreated, can have adverse effects on both maternal and fetal well-being.

But here's the real talk: just because you're freaking out a bit doesn't mean you love your kid any less OR that more anxiety means more love. Love wears many different hats, but anxiety isn't one of them. Figuring out the line between regular worry and full-blown anxiety is key for keeping your head straight during pregnancy. It's all about recognizing that difference to keep your sanity intact while diving headfirst into the wild waves of motherhood.

Three ways pregnancy anxiety might be showing up for you:

1. Obsessive Worry:

When you're pregnant, it's totally normal to be concerned about your little one's health and happiness. But if your worrying starts taking over your life, or keeping you awake at night, or you're checking your undies for blood every time you pee, that could be a sign of perinatal anxiety. Watch out for things like getting stuck in your thoughts, having panic attacks, or always needing someone to reassure you that everything is okay. Don't just brush these feelings aside - they're showing up for a reason and need to be taken seriously.

2. Hyperawareness of Physical Changes:

Understatement of the year: pregnancy brings a lot of physical changes, and sometimes, it can be tough to tell what's normal and what's not. Suppose you find yourself constantly obsessing over any little physical sensation, worrying about everything that could go wrong, or feeling totally overwhelmed by all the changes happening to your body. In that case, you may be dealing with perinatal anxiety. Don't worry, though - it's really common (but not normal) and nothing to be ashamed of. Addressing these feelings head-on instead of just brushing them off as typical pregnancy stuff is important.

3. Excessive Preoccupation with Baby's Safety:

When pregnant, it's normal to feel protective and a bit worried. But if you constantly obsess over safety, it could be a sign of perinatal anxiety. You might notice yourself spending hours researching every possible risk, avoiding social situations because you're scared, or going to the doctor all the time. Trust me, I get it - I want your baby to be safe too! But it's important to remember that going overboard can take a toll on you and your baby. So if you're consumed with worry or research, it might be time to step back and talk to someone about it.

If you think you're experiencing perinatal anxiety, there are a few things you can do:

Taking care of yourself is nonnegotiable. Ensure you prioritize things that regulate your nervous system, like journaling, meditation, prenatal yoga, or hobbies you enjoy. And don't feel guilty about taking some "me time" - it's essential for your mental health!

Second, reach out for support. Talk to your healthcare providers, family, and friends about what you're going through. You can also find therapists or support groups specializing in perinatal mental health.

Finally, create a postpartum plan. This can help you feel more prepared for potential challenges after childbirth, including self-care, emotions, and support systems. Being proactive can reduce anxiety and make you feel more confident about life with a newborn.

You can be a prepared and calm parent to a delightful newborn baby.

You and your baby deserve some regulation. Seeking help for your worries doesn't make you a bad parent. In fact, it's a brave and responsible choice.