25. Moms! STOP Foreboding Joy: How I Invite Fear/Grief In For Tea
Fear and joy, they might seem like opposite emotions, but they actually hang out together quite often in motherhood. Wrap your head around this weird paradox and figure out how to navigate these emotional rollercoasters, and you'll be on your way to living a happier and more fulfilled life.
The Grip of Fear
Magical thinking: It's like when we start believing in things that aren't really true, which can make us scared to feel happy because we're afraid of something bad happening.
The story of a soon-to-be dad: This guy was so scared that he couldn't even let himself be happy when his partner was pregnant. It just shows how fear can steal our joy if we let it.
Facing our fears: Instead of running away from fear, it's all about realizing that it's a normal part of life. And when we face it head-on, we can actually find even more happiness (imagine that!).
Strategies for Managing Fear in Motherhood
Therapy: A super effective way to tackle magical thinking by being unbiasedly witnessed and coaxed out of our comfort zone (safety and lead by a trained therapist) so that you can recognizing and changing how we think.
Accepting and understanding feelings: Just sitting with our emotions and getting why we feel that way can be pretty therapeutic.
Mindfulness: Being totally present in the moment and just accepting our emotions without any judgment.
Journaling: Writing about our emotions to get a whole new way of looking at them.
Connection and Emotional Regulation
Sharing experiences: Connecting with others who understand and empathize with our fears and joys can be incredibly healing.
Finding comfort and support: Knowing that we are not alone in our emotional struggles reinforces our resilience.
Transforming Fear
Shifting mindset: Cultivating a mindset of anticipation rather than dread can change our approach to the things you fear.
Practicing real self-care: Engaging in relaxing activities, feeling the feelings, and making time for hobbies will boost mood and energy levels.
How I Invite Fear/Grief In For Tea in my Mothering
Understanding and embracing fear and joy is essential for a richer and fuller life. By challenging our fears and embracing the joy, we can embark on a journey towards a happier and more fulfilled self.
